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All this slows us down on the path to self-realization and these fears can be called in one word – doubts.
Often we have certain doubts regarding our skills, skills at work, talents and so on. All this slows us down on the path to self-realization and these fears can be called in one word – doubts.
The psychological blog on Instagram Mentoly talks about how to stop thinking that you won’t succeed.
How to stop doubting yourself
If you’ve ever thought, “No one will love me” or “I won’t succeed,” this is a clear example of overgeneralization.
Overgeneralization is a type of cognitive distortion where a person assumes that a negative experience of one event in the past guarantees that all other attempts will be the same:
- you assume only the worst: “As always, everything will not go according to plan, we won’t make it in time.”
- are confident that upcoming attempts will end in failure: “I didn’t pass the interview, I’ll never get hired”
- Negative self-talk: “I’m not good enough” or “I could never do this.”
How to stop thinking that you won’t succeed
Stopping overgeneralization can be done through simple techniques such as reframing opinions and focusing on specific situations. Instead of: “I always do everything wrong, it never works out” Reframing: “Sometimes I have difficulties, but I can learn and develop. Every mistake is an opportunity to improve, and not a confirmation of my general failure.”
Focus on specific situations: Instead of making general statements, focus on specific cases and details. Instead of “I’m a lazy person, I can’t do anything” Concentration: “Where exactly do you lose energy? In what activities do I encounter resistance and do I need to force myself? What exactly doesn’t work?”
Dealing with overgeneralization can be done on your own, but it is often done in the context of cognitive behavioral therapy with a trained therapist.
By working with a professional, you can learn to identify and change your tendency to overgeneralize. A therapist can help with positive reframing and reduce the harmful effects of overgeneralization on your life.
