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What should women do after 30 to never be lonely: recommendations from experts.
I’ve been over thirty for a long time now, and I’m constantly unlucky in love. And it seems like a young, beautiful, smart woman, but still no soulmate. When friends already have two children, but there is no one to even go to a cafe with. Then doubts, despondency and soul-searching begin.
The Your Tango website writes that it is smart women who most often make common mistakes in relationships, but this can be easily corrected.
What relationship mistakes should women avoid after 30 so as not to be lonely?
- Give up standards. By the age of thirty, we have a certain set of communication skills that form the model of our behavior with the opposite sex. Usually we stole such a model from the family, however, some have seen enough films, while others are attracted by the behavior of their idols. In this case, psychologists still recommend moving away from your usual roles and trying to communicate with men in a different way. For example, you can get acquainted with people who do not meet your standards, this usually helps.
- Don’t wait for “manna from heaven.” A classic mistake many women make is to leave their personal lives to chance. Although psychologists advise dealing with the issue of your personal life on your own – attending parties, meeting new people, communicating more actively on social networks.
- Avoid frankness. There is no need to reveal your entire rich inner world to a man during the first days of dating. Give yourself and him time to get to know each other, perhaps this acquaintance will be instant, or maybe your relationship will last a lifetime. But in order for an acquaintance to develop into something serious, you should not be too open and interrogate your partner as if you were a representative of law enforcement agencies.
- Try to make compromises. You should not be categorical in your judgments and actions. After all, serious and strong relationships require compliance and compromise. You should learn to accept some of the shortcomings and weaknesses of a man, as long as it does not violate your principles, values and personal boundaries. Mutual understanding is the key to a long and happy relationship.
- Money doesn’t solve anything. This statement is true if you do not intend to enter into a relationship. Otherwise, this is a rather dangerous judgment, since financial stability in a couple ensures a comfortable and enjoyable life. Lack of money, on the contrary, negatively affects relationships, leading to quarrels and divorces.
- There is no need to rush. If you have met someone and you are already well over thirty, you should not immediately run to the salon to buy a wedding dress. Still, it is necessary to return to reality and let the relationship develop naturally. The more you push events, the faster it will all end. And then you will have to start all over again.
